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| Yeeeeeeeeee Haw! |
The spirit of the season, for me, is being with family and loved ones...which frequently seems to revolve around food. We go to my in-laws house for lunch, my parents house for dinner, co-workers bring delicious treats to work, neighbors bake cookies.
How in the world do we justify this?
Well, for some of us, this is how we eat all the time, so it's just another day/week/season.
For others, we somehow have the willpower to resist everything delicious and unhealthy that's put in front of is.
And yet others live a primarily healthy lifestyle but have a holiday free-for-all. Why?
SWEET, GLORIOUS, NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS ARE COMING!
Yes! That moment when you wake up on January 1st, the whole glorious year ahead of you, is amazing. It feels like a clean slate! Every mistake, silly thing, "cheat" day, skipped workout, foul remark, sin, whatever that you participated in over the last year seems like a distant memory...it might as well not exist any more. You are perfect and your track record is unblemished. New year, new start.
Remember that scene in Forrest Gump when Forrest and Lieutenant are celebrating New Years with Cunning Carla and Long Limbs Lenore?
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| You can almost smell the stale cigarette smoke and Dr.Pepper fumes, can't you? |
Well, either Carla or Lenore (which one, I haven't the slightest) has a great line, even though she's only in the movie for like 2 minutes. She says to Forrest:
"Don't you just love New Years? You get to start all over again. Everybody gets a second chance."
And it's so true. "New year, new me" is the motto of so many people I know. New Year's Resolutions is one of my most and least favorite traditions. I've never really gotten in to NY Resolutions - I've always been more of a birthday resolutions type of gal. For me, turning another year older is a fitting time to try to make a positive change; especially one you've been thinking about for a loooooong time but haven't had the motivation/courage/gumption/ability to try to achieve. But that's just me. Lots of people are gung-ho about their NY Resolutions. And really, ANY time is a fitting time to make a positive change in your life...but New Year's is a milestone date, and people take the opportunity to make promises to themselves.
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| Preach it, Morpheus. |
Until about a month in. Maybe more if they're REALLY dedicated. And then a lot of people fall off the resolution wagon.
I looked up some statistics on New Year's Resolutions from the Journal of Clinical Psychology (and no, I will not cite it in APA format). Apparently 75% of individuals last through one week of their new resolution. Seventy-one percent last two weeks, 64% make it through an entire month, and only 46% are succeeding at their resolutions after six months or more.
Forty-six percent. Less than half of us who make resolutions will be successful at six months, and my guess is, even less will be successful long-term.
Why?
THINGS GET IN THE WAY.
We have jobs. We have wives or husbands or partners or girlfriends or boyfriends or significant others. We have kids. We have dogs or cats or parakeets or potbelly pigs or horses or lizards or hedgehogs. We have houses to maintain. We have bills to pay. We have graduate school. We like to marathon Netflix in our spare time.
In short: We have lives. Busy, exhausting, stressful lives.
Another way of putting this: We do not make ourselves a priority.
Yet another way of putting this: Some of us thrive on martyrdom and don't ask for help/support when we need it.
We ABSOLUTELY need to make ourselves a priority. And we ABSOLUTELY need a support system.
I've had a huge mind frame shift this past year, where I'm treating myself like the "leading lady" of my life for the first time, and it's amazing.
Don't get me wrong...sometimes my "wants" still come after others' "needs." When my husband is sick and needs me to go to CVS for cough drops and Theraflu instead of getting a second workout in, I do it. When my dog needs to be walked so I have to take a study break, I do it. When a co-worker's child is in town from across the country for only a few days, I pick up her shift so she can spend time with him. But it's all give and take. When I'm sick, Jeff brings me pho and tea. Taco rewards me in snuggles and by being adorable. My co-workers are so flexible and help me out by picking up extra shifts when my sister is in town (and during finals week). So I'm not saying be a selfish a-hole 100% of the time. You have to make others your first priority at times. That pretty much goes without saying.
However, we need to set goals for ourselves and make them a high priority in our lives. And we need to surround ourselves with people who support our goals and ideally, share our goals.
When I told my husband I wanted to go back to school, we both went about making my success in school a high priority in our lives. My husband got a new job so we could move to Appleton, I got a job in Appleton, we found a place to live in the area. We decided to put the quest for a human baby on hold, but decided to get a dog so we'd still have something cuddly to come home to (that's slightly lower-maintenance than a human child. Slightly). I made sure my work hours would work around school, he made sure his work hours would allow him to occasionally see his wife. My success in school is a high priority for both of us because it affects both of our lives.
The same thing happened with getting healthy. When I was given my ATF membership (thanks Jen, my queen!) and we started seeing a nutritionist, we both started eating better and calling the other one out on unhealthy habits. When we inadvertently sabotage ourselves or each other, we talk about it. Eventually, Jeff saw how freakishly strong I was getting and decided to join the gym, too, before I could beat him at arm wrestling (kidding...this may or may not be why he joined. Also, I will never beat that monster at arm wrestling).
I consider my friends and family a big part of why I've been so successful at last year's birthday resolution. They support my goals and several of them are either trying to get healthier or living insanely healthy lifestyles already. It really does help!
And no, I'm not saying to give up your friends and get new ones. If your resolution is to quit smoking, by no means do you have to stop hanging out with your smoker friends. But you do need at least one person in your corner who doesn't smoke or who has successfully quit smoking, to cheer you on and back you up. They will be your sounding board and motivator. They'll put you in check if/when you mess up. They are an integral part of your success.
I'm lucky, I have a LOT of people around to keep me accountable. The gift-giver, Jen. Do I want to let her money and time go to waste? HELL to the no. Likewise for my nutritionist and trainer...if I don't follow their instructions and do what they tell me to do at home and at the gym, I'm essentially wasting their time and straight up disrespecting them. I frequently ask myself "What would Amanda/Donovan do?" I want to be alive, mobile, and healthy for as long as possible to keep being ridiculous with my husband, besties, sibs, and parents, so they're motivating, also. Even my dog keeps me in check...he needs daily walks and I need to find the time and energy to do it. And despite his teeny little legs, that fool is FAST.
The moral of the story is this. Set a resolution if you want. Or change today. Whatever works for you to set and achieve your goals! Any time is a fantastic time to make positive changes in your life. Whether that includes fitness or not, strive to be even more awesome in 2015! Find yourself a support system that will help you meet your goals. You are worth the time and energy and I hope you can find a way to prioritize your goal this year!
One last comment: Fellow gym-goers, I know January can be frustrating. The gym is flooded with newbies. The squat rack is always taken (usually by somebody curling). Your trainer is booked out for weeks and there's even a wait for cardio machines.
| Welcome, resolution gym-goers! I hope you stick around so I'm not the new kid any more :) |
Two things to keep in mind:
1) As stated above, 54% of the resolution gym-goers will be gone in 6 months (which may make you happy but actually is pretty depressing when you think about it). So hang in there, you'll have the gym to yourself all too soon.
2) You were new once, too. Be patient and don't be a butthead. Hope they stick with it so in a few months, they'll know what they're doing and can spot you.
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